Q: I hve trouble forming and maintaining relationships. My family life is fine. We have the occasional argument, and sometimes we are VERY critical and elitist, but all in all I can't complain. Perfectly functional. That being said, I feel guilty for complaining... but I have lost almost every close friend I have ever had for no concrete reason. I have also never had a serious romantic relationship with anyone. Since I am away at college now, the loneliness is more striking than ever.I need to know if anyone has any suggestions about how to handle this situation. It doesn't seem to be something I can outgrow.
A: I had the same problem, but the very second i stopped searching for true friends and searching for a potential boyfriend, they came to me. I'm not saying you'll outgrow it, I'm only advisng you to let your friends and lovers come to you because the best kind of friendship is the kind that isn't forced, but just happened to come across you because of fate or some sort of odd similar characteristics between you and the person. good luck!
Q: does anyone know any websites that has got infomation on relationships on for teenagers. me mum said to ask her but i dont want to cause were not close and i wanna find out myself. im 14 if that matters
A: http://www.teenrelationships.org/A website for teens about healthy relationships and many other resources for you. Good luck I hope this is what you were looking for.
Q: i need to get my best friend and her ex they both like each other but only she expresses herself he tries to make her jealous and annoys her all the time he dumped her because his mates told him she was cheating on him my friend was crying for two weeks in her wardrobe help me i want to set them up on a kind of blind date even though they know each other shell know he wont i need to know a good way to set it up both are my freinds i have both numbers and they are perfect for each other help!?!?!?!
A: You should talk to them about it. Tell the truth.- Have a great day!
Q: They say that knowing oneself and really understanding oneself is one of the most important things one can do in life. Many people don't take the time to do so. Also, our relationships with others our a reflection of the relationships we have with ourselves. In other words, our feelings toward other people are representative of the feelings we have toward ourselves.So my question is are others necessary to help us understand ourselves?
A: Of course, this is how we know how we communicate with others to help to get to know and better ourselves. you dont' get to know yourself by locking yourself in a room, do you?no.. you get to know yourself and what you are made of by communicating with other people. When we communicate and who we choose to communicate with is a direct reflection, it shows whom and what we appreciate and whom and what we have things in common with, who we can understand and who understands us.
Q: How has the media affected your views on love and how you behave in your relationships?For my final Studies of Society assignment I'm doing a social experiment, and need as many answers as possible.. How has watching relationships grow in movies and books affect your expectations within your own relationships and how you treat your partner?
A: My personal opinion is a lot of people form unrealistic expectations from what they see on TV and movies. A lot of sitcoms that portray a group of friends that sleep around with each other (i.e.the series of Friends from the 1990s) or others that are similar. The fact that the characters are kosher with each other despite the fact that each other have probably been passed around is pretty unrealistic. This when you consider most guys and girls would flip if they found out one of their friends had slept with their boyfriend or girlfriend at one point or another. Or in the case of movies (romantic comedies in particular) where you're looking at a story that is portrayed over the span of an hour and half. Every plot these days seems to fit a certain mold (insert generic characters and plot twists). Personally I'm glad I separate reality from entertainment/fantasy. Life by itself can be pretty challenging let alone adding in complicating external factors. And as far as relationships go in the media based from celebrities, well that stuff is just a mess most times. Sure there are plenty of celebrities who get married or go steady. But then again there are plenty of Charlie Sheens, Britney Spears types out there, yeah they pretty much screw up that curve.
Q: They say that knowing oneself and really understanding oneself is one of the most important things one can do in life. Many people don't take the time to do so. Also, our relationships with others our a reflection of the relationships we have with ourselves. In other words, our feelings toward other people are representative of the feelings we have toward ourselves.So my question is are others necessary to help us understand ourselves?
A: I think it's a balance -- for the same reason they say that you can't be in a romantic relationship until you have a healthy relationship with yourself. Relationships with others helps us better understand what type of people we are (based on what type of people we seek out), but honestly, without a healthy relationship with yourself, you won't be able to understand anyone else. So, I guess I think it's the opposite of what you're asking.... Just thought it was kinda interesting. : )
Q: I keep hearing that a person that get divorced will at some point have a rebound relationship. How long does a rebound relationship have to last for it to count as a rebound would you say? How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have- can they have more than one?
A: There is no real answer because a person can have rebound relationships the rest of their lives, or they can figure out what went wrong in a relationship - whether it was their fault or their partners that ended the relationship - and do things to change those things. A person might get into a relationship that lasts for years but if there is still a ghost from the prior relationship, the present one will either not work or will be painful for one or both.A recent divorcee needs to ask questions of themselves and find the answers, and depending upon the answers, may well never have a rebound relationship but rather one that works.
Q: I always see these young couples who seem perfect for each other. They always hang out, they're so cute, they're so comfortable around each other, and it seems like they both have their expectations filled. How do these types of relationships work? How do people get into relationships like this?
A: The ones that seem perfect are normally the ones that don't last. They probably seem so blissful because it's all fresh & new & exciting to them. But no relationship is perfect & if all they have is superficial love, then it will soon fade. To have a real, healthy relationship that lasts you have to be open & honest & most importantly be yourself. If they can't love you for who you really are, then they aren't worth your time. And people who think everything is so perfect in the beginning don't know what they're getting into. They haven't even begun to get to know each other yet. Love takes time & lots of work. You have to have good communication or it will die almost instantly. So, anyway- don't be fooled by what may look like a "perfect" couple. Love is patient!
Q: Do guys usually have at least one serious relationship (7 months or more) before they marry? Guys, how many serious relationships have you had and if you married how many did you have before you married?
A: Most likely you will get no useful answer unless it is to understand it varies so much guy to guy, even some guys and women also marry once, twice, or three times before 'settling down' as you put it.And if a guy is really alive, despite a good relationship, if that relationship ends, he is out looking again for the support, sharing, excitment of new experiences ... (and yes sex). What is important is that the 'chemistry' is good and each shares goals in living, maybe it is children, a home of some kind, relations with family, travel, occupations ... Having said that, it is probably good for most men if they have had other relationships (and the intimate moments with la femme) so they do not feel that they have totally missed out and might cheat or wander off to discover what they may have missed.Off hand, I would say a guy needs to have, say, 4-5 relationships of the types you probably mean before feeling ready to settle in.All good wishes.
Q: Sorry if the title is a bit misleading but my question is this: Someone had told me the way your parents had treated you as a child largely figures into how you perceive and construct relationships with others. For example, you were figuratively smothered as a child and so you treat potential mates as such. Is this a case of pan psychology or is there some truth to this?
A: No it's legitimate psychology. The basic idea is that there are four parenting styles each with its own results (on the children). However to go further in depth, people's personalities are a result of genetics + environment. What you inherited from your parents + your lifetime experiences. Of your lifetime experiences, you are shaped and learn the most at an early age. At an early age, the most influential people in your lives are your parents. So everything your parents did to you, affected you in some way for the better or worse.This is also why you see all these parenting magazines with articles on how to raise a child with high-self esteem or great interpersonal relationship skills.
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